Wednesday, February 15, 2006

How to say what you feel?

I've learned a lot of things in the past that petty things should not be brought up when you're in a relationship yet when there are problems it has to be discussed and solved.

So right now there are a lot of reasons why I hold back from saying what I really feel to someone who's close to me but usually it all goes back to one emotion, that is fear. Fear of getting an angry response, fear of making myself vulnerable by revealing what is really important to me, and fear of what will happen if I don't get the response I'm hoping for. Because of all this fear, I often hold back from airing grievances until they build up to explosive levels. At that point, the chances of expressing myself constructively are pretty low. So, arguments tend to flare. What's the solution to this dilemma? Anyone?

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