The Reunion

Had a blast with a handful of old folks, I mean old timers. Doesn't sound right does it? Well  school mates all the way back from high school since 1994 I think. It brought back some of my fond memories, not that i want to share it with you here. (almost got recognized by  a dude who claimed I punch him in the face, in the toilet knowingly I said that was someone else).

Anyway,  it was a wedding dinner and was very honored that I was invited to it. Thanks again Nicole. Again I want to apologize to those I have totally forgotten your names and vaguely recognizable face, either you're stretch sideways, wind blew off your hair or someone graffitied your face, so please do accept my humble apology or if I have insulted any of you old timers! One for the road cheers! 

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Into Every Life

Since I just got married, I'm trying to do things that keep me feeling young, of course, I am young; but there's something about being married that makes you feel just a little bit older. Oh well. Into every life...no I guess I don't have anything philosophical to say.

Everything went on very well for us from the day of retrieving the bride to the wedding dinner. I have received a lot of compliments on the presentation on the entire nights occasion. The video presentation was good, the DJ cum MC was good, the food, the music, the lightings, the settings, the services and lots more. From my standpoint of view it may not look as outstanding as I want it to be since I am the one planning everything since day 1 but I guess from my guests perspective it was pretty good! I'm just glad it was over, I can't go through another day thinking about what is it that I have not done and that 'butterfly in-the-stomach' feeling. So for the past 2 days I had lots of sleep and numb legs.

And Oh, I did not get drunk, phew. The thought of walking to 52 tables and yum sing was dreadful. I guess some were not easily fooled by the ice-cubes Chinese Tea that I was holding the entire night. Some inescapable tables meant one full glass of unsaturated whiskeys for me. I had to put on a drunken stage act if I were to stay alive. So the night ended with lots of smile, handshakes and compliments. I knew from then on it was a success. I owed thanks to many people and you know who you are.

I'm still waiting for the DVD and pictures taken on the night of our wedding. I will post an update on that.

A Story

Recently I have found out about things which I don't realized from this marriage of mine. Some things are happy and some are quite disappointing. I'm mainly talking about friendship here, friends whom I thought of least came true for me but friends who I had high hopes, disappoints me. As all of you know, 'Hing Tai' which in turn meant, good buddies, friends which I've known for years are the supporting arm for my marriage and I expect great deal from them. I was turned down by a friend which I consider the most understanding and supportive person. I expect him to be with me all the way and go down the history book together. In the end not only he will not be my 'Hing Tai', he won't even attend my wedding. Not because he couldn't make it but a reason that shocked the life out of me based on a miss guided understanding. There are things, not meant to be mentioned here but lets put it this way, here's how the story goes:-

I'm a sheep who lived with other sheeps for many years up and through a rocky mountain. And one day I had decided it's enough of climbing this tough rocky mountain and I told the other sheeps that I will be leaving for a better life. Hence I jump off this rocky moutain and after months of searching I finally found green pasture. But just when I was about to ask all of my sheeps on the rocky mountain to celebrate with me, I found out I was already been labeled a Black Sheep for eating in the green pasture even before I jumped off from the rocky mountain months ago. I do not know what gave the other sheep that idea but I was upset on the conclusion. So all the sheeps on the rocky mountain is framing me for eating the green pasture way before i told them I was to jump off. Like I've said the rocky mountain is a tough climb. So in short the sheeps that will not celebrate with me is the ones on the rocky mountain. All the other sheeps on the green pasture knew very well I'm a new comer.

It doesn't matter if you understand what i am posting here, i just felt that i need to get it of my chest.

The bond by blood is stronger than the bond by years of friendship.

That New Room

The Green Hornet

I just got back from fitting on my nice set of suit. I must say, remember "The Green Hornet" series? I look just like that, well not like Bruce Lee but what he had on. Minus the glove, the hat and the mask. It will be good if i can have them all on.

Anyway, we got a surprised by Vogue Collection. They have requested permission to make another copy of our Wedding Album as sample reference for their customers. And I modestly obliged. Hoping that I will get paid for using our faces.

And In Return:-

Vogue Collection Wedding Galary
No. 76 Jalan SS2/24
47300 Petaling Jaya
Selangor Darul Ehsan
03-78779199
Mr. Daniel

10 Days

There won't be much updates for now. I'll be taking some time-off from here to prepare for my "Lou Chan" Day.Past few days, I've been busy with tonnes of planning from Catering, Bridal Fitting, Liquor Sourcing, Restaurant Layout & Planning and finalizing wedding guest list. It may not sound much but it's a lot of work belief me. I just recovered from a serious migraine yesterday. I'm not exactly proficient with all this planning it's my first time but I gotta start somewhere. I figured it would be good if I get myself familiar with all this and i could later be a wedding planner. Yea....

I need to make strategic planning for retrieving my bride on June 9th. I've made reconnaissance and identified 3 boobs blockades which my Hing Tai and I will need to take down. Although some of us will fall, they will be remembered but remember the objective - Protect Alpha Dawg!

Ops Saman Kahwin I Part 2

You see what i mean?

What Is Left Of Me Part 3

Finally I've gotten everything done! Thank God! By the way thanks for all the comments and words of advise that I got from friends, my multiply and online buddies. The best thing I've heard was "It's only a once in a lifetime thing further more you are doing it for the one you really love and care, so hang in there!" There are just too many "Hang In There" encouragement makes me want to hang myself. I am really supprised to how many people read my blog, just this week I got 44 new I.P addresses and in total 122 hits per week. I am really thankful.

It's officially less than 30 days to the point where I can say goodbye to independence, nah just joking. Thankfully, I've got a wife that cares for me alot.

Ops Saman Kahwin I

I'll be passing out 'samans' today and for those who are blacklisted I'm coming for you! Please pick up my calls, reply my sms/msn and kindly let me know where and how I can pass you the saman. Please spare me the excuse that you are in Timbuktu. So far only one blacklisted said this to me when i called "Who are you?" (he seem to know the reason I was calling).

See you, Cheers!

What is Left of Me Part 2

All this marriage thing is already taking a toll on me. I can't stand all this issues of what to do and what not to do and for a fact I'm paying for every single thing for this marriage. You can imagine as a person who comes out with all this money can't even say a damn thing about it. Yet, I'm instruct to do what is told even in my own house. All i know is that whatever that is on the guy side is up to us to decide and not to be decided by the ladies side. I'm spending thousands and thousands and I can't even voice a word on my side without being mad at. This pisses me off!! When I start to suggest something that is on my side of the family, I get bombarded by faces from hell. Nobody cares about what I want to say, so what is left of me now is just a shell. I really hope people will understand my predicament because I've been keeping quiet all this while, I just follow what people ask me to do and I've compromised. I belief I've lost my self in all this and I'm suffering from pre-marriage syndrome.

What Is Left Of Me

Aahh! Today was my giving "dowry" day. I've made it here and I'm still alive after months of hectic wedding preparations. Sigh… and I'm really tired physically and mentally. Been running around spending money like no nobodies business! I'm already feeling the pinch in my bank account. I can't even have the opportunity to breath cause one commitment comes after another. I cant find an appropriate word to describe how I'm feeling now. All those years of $avings I never thought cashflow was a hurdle now, being tied down with insurance, credit cards, installments and now heavy expenses on wedding album, furniture, wedding dinner, dowry, etc etc etc.

So, although I'm still surviving, I foresee my cash flow will only improve in say another 6 months time after I recoup from gigantic loss (I mean Cost) from my wedding/dowry (I didn’t know dowry can be sooo expensive these days).


BUT FOR ALL THOSE THINGS I DID IS FOR THE SAKE OF HONORING & JUSTIFYING MY LOVE. FOR WHAT MATTERS TO ME MOST NOW IS "THE RETURN", MY WIFE. A LIFETIME COMPANION WHO SHARES THICK AND THIN WITH ME!

Jusco Frenzy

There are so many stuff in the list that I need to buy before that big day comes. So just last week my wife and I have decided to go scout for those things. As we were looking at those Akemi Comforters Set for my new bedroom furniture, it was to my disbelief each King Size set cost around RM500 - RM700. As I was about to pay the sales assistant asked me for the discount coupon and J-Card, I told her i don't have either one. Then she said "too bad, if not you will be only paying RM150-RM200 for the comforters". That was the best spoken word I've heard all day. We just found out that Jusco was having their quarterly J-Card Member Privilege Day and it was the last day. Therefore I quickly went to apply for the card though the line was long. I will be stupid if I don't apply for one to enjoy such discounts and I end up buying 2 sets. Other things I bought was toilet fittings, bedroom furnitures, new clothings. I have saved about 70% of the initial budget which I was quite happy with.

Also bought my wife's Kor Lai Jewelry at Tomei & Poh Kong, I was happy that she did not go for the heavier ones, as she have told me that she help me save, what a great wife!. End up only spending RM1600 for the 4 piece set of 916 gold jewelry.

There are still many many things I need to buy, sigh......... more updates.

53 Days in Counting......

When I imagined planning my wedding I envisioned a year to plan and I knew exactly what I wanted. Now I am less than 2 months away from our confirmed date and I am starting to panic.

I think one of problems is when I take one of those How's your wedding plans? questions, I get more nervous. We have been searching for furnitures for the past week and just few days back we have finally decided on one bedroom set which cost me 5k. Bummer!

My bedroom toilet is beginning to look like a toilet after much renovation is done to changed the cum stained tiles and fittings that shoot water like pee, due to wear and tear. In my room, threw away all my old furniture's and repainted the wall to cover up those childhood grafities. Ummmm "1+1 = 11" and those you can find in public toilets "Call 016-609 0000 for big dick"

Got the invitation card done, now to blacklist the names which I'm going to collect saman from. Maybe I'll help them write their names on the envelope so that when they packed the saman in I would know who they are.

Camera & Video man set ... if you see them walking around in slippers T-shirt & torn jeans, that's them. I got them very cheap!

List of things I've yet to complete

• 1 Whole Mother load Pig - Slathered and Roasted
• 1 tonne truck of XOs & Swings and for those yuppies, Black Label
• OMG...... I forgot about the jewelry set for my wife! Maybe I will attempt to forget it longer, :P
  
• Chain Saw & Steel cutter, I'll bring along a locksmith.
  
• Rob the bank but before that I wonder if they have loans for marriages. Maybe like 35 years payback with no collateral damages.

More marriage updates in a week time.

View on Marriage

Many people said all that is needed is marriage but some do not agree which many have advised me not to. This came after I proposed, hahaha, anyway what is done is done and I love my wife. Anyhow this is not what this post is about. This is about the community who is against marrying. I have a cousin that told me marriage is lame. I have close friends that told me weddings are a waste of time and money. And somewhat strangers said this to me, in view of the soaring divorce rate their personal advice is to adopt a pet! Last but not the least, I have heard advise that if you have just gotten married, don't have children. A Singaporean once told me the apple of your eye is a pain in my neck so make the world a quieter, cleaner place. (I swear I almost burst out laughing)

Ok, what do you think people? Are all this people is in their right mind and having negative thoughts about marriage?

This is the Moment

Finally, our wedding photo shoot day! We had prepared well for the whole week in terms of using more money (sigh) for shoes, socks, shirts, beautician and a lot of other pamperingness. My wife puts on her Sussie Swiss whitening package (to me it's $$) every night and I actively popping Omega 3 capsules ($$). We are not nervous but worried that those pictures won't come out good since I have paid so much and getting prepared for it! Also worried that this people will put too much make up on me. Worry that smile will look fake, worry that my crater face will not look good blah blah. Ahem, don't laugh, I got my eye brow shaved and make up put on but I did beg for her not to powder too much as it would make me look artificial. And umm rejected the lipstick.

OK yesterday was a completely worn out day. I do not want to spent my whole day ranting about how it went but here's some photo's i secretly took which can explain partially how my day went. We were there from 9:45am to 6:30pm with non stop activities. I remembered we were changing a lot of clothing's in a day. Our outdoor shoot was in Putrajaya and guess what? It rained. The Photographer has assured us with the rain it's even better because we are able to do a lot of natural shots like playing with water, running in the rain which he said many couples don't get to do and it's different. It's convincing but it better look good on photo. We did a lot of candid shots which we really wanted like carrying my 'feather-like-weight' wife around, throwing her in the air, dip her legs into the lake...... (evil grin). I also had to take off everything from suit, tie, shoes, socks and vest since we wants it natural so photographer said take it all off, so I was like running around like a fish monger smiling and jumping all the way. Oh i remember climbing out of the building for a shot as well.

Our photographer was extremely funny! So we didn't have problems smiling and laughing whole day. Let me recall why he is funny. Firstly he introduced himself like how JamesBond would as "Wing, Chicken Wing". Secondly named us "Tai Lo" (brother) & "Ah Lang" (pretty). Thirdly, when he gets a good shot he does the Fist-Elbow move as if you scored a goal. Finally, if he wants us to laugh he'll do the HAHAHOHO noise. I can imagine now to become a supermodel is not easy, very demanding job. HAHAHOHO.

They did everything professionally and I'm very satisfied with that. All in all it was a great once in a lifetime experience.

Aging Feeling

For the past 2 days I was away for a wedding reception. And I'm still trying to get use to having a Sister In-Law now. Eve of the reception we did not have enough sleep, in total only 2 hours of sleep before the groom arrived. I was being nominated as being one of the bridesmaids. Yes, the only bridesmaid without breasts. The most interesting part of the reception really takes place at the doorstep of my wife's house, by 9.00am it was already heavily guarded by the bridesmaid or "cheemui" of the bride. It is customary for the bridesmaid to give the bridegroom a difficult time before he is allowed to enter. Usually wisdom and courage and his best buddy will help the bridegroom to succeed in his “trial”. However, there is one more situation he has to negotiate with the bridesmaid and sisters of the bride to distribute among them Ang Pow! The funny part was i get to share the ang pow collection :P but I gave it to my wife. The trials went on for an hour, when some of the "best buddy" were starting to lose their patience and started pushing their way in, i mean really pushing and shoving but the bridesmaid proved to be the stronger group. What was "THE MOMENT" for me was to having the honor to sit with my wife to receive Tea from the Groom and the Bride. I being the eldest Brother In-Law gave them ang pow each and said some words of wisdom and encouragement.


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10th June 2007

Just a small update, I hope. Today was restaurant hunting day and the first thing that came into my head this morning "We'll never be able to find the restaurant that has the date we want so badly!" I knew the thoughts that was going thru my wife cause I had the same feeling as well, neither both of us want to get married end of year 2007! It is just too long to wait and unbearable to sit and wait for time to past. But lucky for us we have a few dates to choose from and we are most particular about the month of June 2007. There are too many choices and too many opinions from many many people. I estimated to have 60 tables but that figure might increase once we have finalized our guest list. Since I prefer to hold it at restaurant, we have actually short listed a few before we went rampaging in Klang Valley for Restaurants. They are:- Tai Thong Imperial China Subang Jaya, Tai Thong Dynasty Puchong, Overseas Armada Hotel and a restaurant in Kota Damansara.

Ok here we go，departed from my house arounf 11:30am, proceeded to have our brunch nearby. Soon after we made a dash to our first stop Imperial China Subang (sounded like we're going for a camping trip). I looked at my wife and said to her cross your fingers and wish us well. Upon entering the restaurant we were greeted by not pretty but friendly waitresses. We were ushered to meet up with the restaurant manager Mr. Lee. To cut the story short, all the dates that we have on our list are all fully booked!!!! OMG! But we tried our luck with the manager on 10th June 2007 which was booked by a fella but have not paid the deposit. My wife and I were aggressive to obtain this date and this is our priority restaurant hence we told the manager that we will give you the deposit of RM3000.00 now, "delete that fuckers name and put ours!!" The manager said no no no, unless he calls that guy and see if he is still interested. Only then he will surrender that beautiful date to us. So he went and call this guy, fucker did not pick up his phone but i insisted that he calls him back again. No answer still. The manager said he will try again later but will put us in the list just in case. Sigh... we left empty handed.

Second stop Tai Thong Puchong, went in greeted by the manager. The first impression wasn't satisfying due to 6 pillars that was going through the restaurant. Let's say we have tables behind the pillars, people won’t be able to see the stage. Table to table space are very limited and can only accommodate 60 tables max. Blah! Anyway the dates that we wanted were all cash deposited, so no chance lor.IV>

Third stop, Overseas Armada, it rained when we got there not a good sign. We were getting tired and rather disappointed by the results we were getting so this will be our final chance to strike gold although we don't really like the place. They are able to cater for 80+ tables.. Met with the supervisor, she showed us that 10th June 2007 was already booked by another idiot who was on our date! But have not paid his deposit, so we did the same thing, i said "give us this damn date, i pay you the deposit!" then she said "oh like that ar? okok i cancel this name and put your name, since they didn't confirm back for 2 weeks already." We just looked at each other finally with a tiny smile. But i know in our minds, Imperial China Subang is still our priority. We are not satisfied still.

Later that afternoon, i called the Imperial China manager again and i told him i am coming over no matter what to pay that deposit. He said no no no again! He didn't manage to call the fucker who booked the date earlier. So he said it's not proper and he will call me back once he has managed to confirm if he is still interested. Sigh!!! Later that day we waited and waited and waited, slept woke up and slept again.

Woke up for dinner yet there was no call from Imperial China Manager. It was a rather dullful nite for dinner, was raining, cold........ Suddenly ring ring ring ring..... my phone rang and it was him our GOD our savior, I was praying that it will be a good news. And indeed it was! That was the sweetest voice I have ever heard in my whole entire life,

"Mr. Tan, I can't reach that fucker on the phone so I might as well give that date to you, so you coming to pay your RM3000.00 ar?"

My answer was "YOU WAIT FOR ME I COME NOW!"

I sped to the Imperial China, and gave him the deposit. That was the sweetest moment and a huge releave for my wife and me. So be it...... 10th June 2007 and by the way, sorry dude whoever you are, survival of the fittest.

Another hurdle, wedding photos! To be continue.......

Good Karma

As of yesterday we have finally received our official chinese customary wedding date. I'm very relieve indeed been waiting for 3 months!. There tends to be differentiation in custom according to the dialect groups. Especially for Hakka dialect groups, they are extremely particular about the wedding custom especially in choosing an auspicious date, time and hours but luckily my wife and I had no problems with this. Both our parents agreed on the date that was given to us.

I know for a fact when we decided to settle down, the first thing that was on my mind to do is to ask a professional fortune-teller, feng shui master, or Chinese almanac expert to select an auspicious wedding date. As a rule as i've known for this past few months, Chinese do not schedule wedding on the seventh month of the Lunar Year, the month of the Ghost Festival. Also middle of month like June is not prefered because we chinese say "Half Year Marriage". ikewise, any renovation of the house or the bedroom will not be done in this month. To further complicate things, we want to get married on the same date, one of the several auspicious days in the Chinese Almanac to ensure good Karma!

I've learned everyday, marital preparation does teaches us something and I'm trying to do everything by the book the best I can. We both are trying to get it done quick and in perfect order. Not a perfect score yet but I know we can get there. But we will always try to improve ourselves as we go along this path.

Taking the First Step...

... of Husbandary.

Day 1: Lose my Virginity.

Singing Madonna's "I'm like a virgin, ooooh, touch for the very first time...."

Day 2: Grow a Belly.

Homer Simpson's "Dope!"

Day 3: Drink Tongkat Ali

Mawi's: "Saya boleh, you boleh!"

Day 4: Repeat Day 1,2,3 and eat lots of fresh oysters.

Pinochuo: "I'm growing...."

ZZZZzzzz.....