Friday, April 28, 2006

Save The Pandas


I'm into Pandas now. How could such a cute animal face extinction threats? There is a desperate international request to save the giant panda, perhaps the most visible symbol of the world's endangered animals. Can you belief that there's only 1,500 in the wild and you can only find them in China. I read that they will be gone in 15 to 20 years time if no concervation is done. Disappear from the face of our planet. Poof! Gone! Bummer!

I have some friends as well that look like panda, but their survival rate is high. Either not enough sleep or part time "tai kor" gangster with blacks shades.

Poeming Again...

A Little Fish

A friend who calls,
Reading this months Cleo,
She recalls,
I've fallen into a category,
I've never realized before,
I've just been called,
An Eligible batchelor,
Which suggests to my mind,
Which sounded,
That demand could be high,
But I reckon,
I'm just a small little fish,
Living in the biggest ocean.

by Ed

Sex Education: The "Pinch" Method 101


Overcoming Premature Ejaculation and I call it the pinch method. It's is similar, but instead of just stopping stroking or stopping thrusting, you actually pinch the head of the penis to delay orgasm and reduce arousal. Don’t worry, it’s not as painful as it sounds, the “pinch” is actually more of a “squeeze.” With your thumb and forefinger you or your partner can apply firm pressure to the top and underside of penis head, just above the ridge on the top side, and just below the ridge on the underside. This puts the brakes on the ejaculation reflex, like holding back a sneeze by pressing under your nose. As with the stop-start method, practice the applying the pinch when masturbating, then with a partner jerking you off or blowing you, then try using it during sex. It’s less convenient than the stop-start method because you have to actually withdraw to do the squeeze. The trick is to get the squeeze on in time to actually halt orgasm. A firm squeeze at the base of the penis may also do the trick.

The purpose of both of these techniques is for you to become more aware of the feelings in your body while you’re having sex. Most guys can identify that “no turning back” point when they know they’re going to ejaculate and there’s no way to stop it. By getting more familiar with what it feels like before you get to that point of no return, you’ll be able to slow down what you’re doing and prolong your enjoyment of sex.

Thursday, April 27, 2006

Jokes Again

Morris an 80 year old man is having his annual checkup. The doctor asks him how he's feeling. "I've never been better," he replies. "I've got a twenty two year old bride who's pregnant with my child! . . .What do you think about that?" The doctor considers this for a moment, then says, "Well, let me tell you a story. I know a guy who's an avid hunter. He never misses a season. But, one day he's in a bit of a hurry and he accidentally grabs his umbrella instead of his gun. So he's walking in the woods near a creek and suddenly spots a beaver in some bush in front of him. He raises up his umbrella, points it at the beaver and squeezes the handle... *BAM* The beaver drops dead in front of him." "That's impossible!" said the old man in disbelief, "Someone else must have shot that beaver." "EXACTLY!"

No One Can Help You But Yourself

I've read and heard alot of such cases and here I would like to stress a little more. Well at least it could be helpful to many who will read it. We cannot avoid as well as ignore where most people had relationships in their past that didn’t work. Most people have at least one such relationship that is very hard to let go of. Or this is the one that got away, but shouldn’t have. Or this is the one that felt as if it was meant to be. Or this is the one that felt like true love yet just would not work. How do you let go of a relationship like this??? Now here's something i found, it makes hell lot of sense and I think you should read it.

Posted by Rinatta Paries on November 12, 2005.

It is not easy to move on to another relationship after such an experience. It is not easy to attract love, or give your heart to someone new. It is hard to believe you will have such love and passion with anyone else. At the same time, it is hard to trust that you will somehow avoid hurt the next time around.

Another thing that keeps you hooked into that relationship is anger. Anger arises when someone has something you want but won’t give it to you, especially when the giving of the thing would seem to be the natural or the expected thing to do. You are justified in being angry, yet anger is a way to stay connected to someone, although not a positive way.

There is another reason why it’s hard to let go of the relationship that got away. The person you were in love with truly had great qualities. With him or her you had an incredible connection. Maybe he or she loved you intensely. He or she may still love you. The only problem in the relationship was that he or she could only treat you well part of the time. The rest of the time, he or she acted hurtfully towards you.

It is very difficult to throw away this type of connection. And it is more difficult still when you interact with the wonderful, caring side of him or her. Having to walk away from such a relationship can be the hardest thing you will ever do. Even when you walk away it may still pull at your heart.

It is so much easier to let go of someone when it is clear he or she doesn’t care about you. It may even be easier to let go of someone who dies, because there is nothing that can be done. But to let go of someone who is well and alive and loves you is an incredible task. Yet let go you must if the partner you are clinging to is not willing to meet your needs. If you are ever to be fulfilled in any relationship, you must let go completely of this past partner.

So how do you do this? How do you let go of the living, breathing former partner who may love you, or whom you may love, and/or who is not good for you? How do you let go of the one who seems to have been the one?

The first step is to understand that your partner would have given you the moon and the stars if he or she could have. Even when he or she appeared to be holding back or hurting you on purpose, he or she was always doing the best he or she could. Understand that he or she never intentionally hurt you.

To let go of your past relationship, you will first need to forgive your ex, forgive yourself, and understand that his or her behavior was not your fault. Understand that all that he or she did, the good and the bad all together, comprise the totality of this person. Sometimes he or she was wonderful and sometimes he or she was horrible. And all of the time he or she was the person you cared for.

There is no way you could only have his or her good side. Because you were connected to the whole person, you had to experience the bad side as well. His or her bad side was hurtful, and in the end the bad outweighed the good. Since the bad side was a part of the package and could not be changed, the whole package had to go.

Secondly, do something to honor and cherish the true connection between the two of you. In fact, you may need to honor that connection for a long time. There was a wonderful part of him or her, a loving and nurturing part. There was love for you; there may still be love for you. You may always love that part of your ex.

How do you honor the connection to your ex? Honor your love and connection in prayer, in your heart, in your thoughts, and in your actions. Use the gift of the connection as an inspiration to find more of that kind of love in your future partners.

When you are ready, send thoughts of peace, healing, and joy to your ex whenever thoughts of your past relationship cross your mind. Whenever you miss him or her, send him or her your love. In this way you can still love him or her, while keeping your distance and protecting yourself from his or her hurtful behavior.

You may be hesitant to do this. You may be afraid that it will make you go back into the relationship with your ex. But understand I am not saying your ex-partner will change and become more of what you wanted. Most likely, your ex will remain exactly as he or she is, at least as far as you are concerned.

The reason to honor your connection is not to somehow bring your ex-partner back. Instead, by honoring the good of the relationship, you become free of the anger you feel towards him or her. By honoring the gifts he or she gave you, instead of focusing on what he or she did not give you, you will begin to feel peace and gratitude.

Remembering that your ex came as a complete package, combining the very good with the intolerably bad, will give you the strength to not go back into that relationship. And freeing yourself of anger at your ex will give you the ability to move on and deeply love another person.

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Dirty Jokes to brighten up your day.

Kinds of Penises
A young woman asks her mother, "Mom, how many kind of penises are there?" The mother, surprised, answers, "Well, daughter, a man goes through three phases. In a man's twenties, a man's penis is like an oak, mighty and hard. In his thirties and forties, it is like a birch, flexible but reliable. After his fifties, it is like a Christmas tree." "A Christmas tree?" "Yes, dried up and the balls are there for decoration only."

Moral of the Story
There was a cat and a rooster wondering by a lake. Both were famished, looking for any food they could find, but to no avail. Later on, the rooster finds himself focusing upon a worm, inching its way nearby. The rooster then proceeds to chase and then pounce on the worm, eating it quickly. Resting after his meal, he rubs his belly in pure satisfaction. The cat looks at the rooster and thinks to himself, "Well, if he can do it, I can do it." Not long after the rooster eats his worm, the cat spots a mouse scurrying nearby the lake. The cat raises its tail, arches its back, and with all its might, attempts to pounce on the mouse, only to end up in the lake. What is the moral of the story? Where there is a satisfied cock, there is a wet pussy...

Penis Torture
Three men were walking aimlessly in the desert. They came upon a castle. Dying of thirst, they decided to go into the castle. Inside they found no men, just dozens of beautiful women. The three men decided to stay (obviously, what man wouldn't). For a week they enjoyed themselves having sex many times a day with all of the beautiful women. After a week, the king of the castle and his army of men came back. As he walked into his castle, he found the three men with his women. Upset, the king ordered his army to capture the three men and line them up against the wall. Then the king said that each of them would be severely punished according to their occupation. The king goes up the first man and demands to know his occupation. The first man replies, "Fireman." The king tells his army, "Burn off his penis." Then he walked over to the second man and asked his occupation. Hesitating the man said, "I...I...I...I'm a police officer." The king ordered, "Shoot off his penis." Then finally the King asks the third man his occupation. With a huge smile on his face the man replied, "Lollipop salesman."

Words of Self Motivation!

How are doing today? Can I tell you something? You dont know me very well but i know you enough to say that you are worth it. Whatever it is , you, worthit. As a matter of fact no matter what anyone has ever told you through word or deed you are worthy of every dream you have ever dreamed. That may sound corny but it is worth it for the little bit it warmed you. I used the words worthit so much it sounds like 'vormit' in my head. :P

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Good Things in Life

Constantly I search outside for good things. Sometimes I put in a lot of searches and get bad things. Sure, we need to know where work needs to be done. This sligt difficulty proves my point. Just because you can't find good things does not mean it isn't out there. You know the good is every where because you can see it all around you if you really look for it. It is quiet and it whispers but trust me it is every where.

Choices...

One of my main points is that there is always a choice in life. For me I can look at any situation and choose which perspective I want. For every trainwreck or any bad outcomes I have encountered there is always one or more positive thinking or image right next to it. We all know what we have experienced and "trained" to believe they are not there and choose to ignore it. If we look closer than we have been shown and think deeper than we have been taught our Choice will expand.

Monday, April 24, 2006

Behind the Smile :-[

This is a smile i drew myself. I always wanted to know what is behind this smile? Behind this smile :-[ is a person you'll never know, who has emotions that chooses not to show. Also behind the eyes are stories left untold. A dream that hasn't been accomplished and layers of skin like onions that have yet to peal off. Behind the face people don't know what to think and nobody will feel it's pain. And what causes this person to sink. Behind this smile is a world filled with uncertainty and sometimes the truth isn't enough but somehow it gets by. Behind the wisdom is someone you haven't met and could be your worst nightmare! You'll be afraid but will curious. What comes out from this smile are words that you can't explain. This person isn't normal nor plain but behind the shadow is a world left unknown. A past yet unspoken and that this person prefers not to show. How mysterious?

Oh Man....

As soon as i got up this morning, i felt really good! Mr. Stiffy acting up and does what it does best. Ya know, people talking about full breast and all, well I have a full crotch this morning and that's sexy! Maybe i'll have Cucumber salad with 2 eggs and mayonaise spread all over for lunch today. Health food.

Friday, April 21, 2006

Blog Milestone: 200th Posting



This posting marks my 200th blog posting since this blog was started about 1 plus year ago... there have been some days that this blog has seen a lot of traffic and comments and some days one week where I have had little to write about because of my complicated life. Thanks for taking time out of your busy days to read my blogs. I continued to write crap like this is because of you crazy people! Without you lazy people I wouldn't have done it. Thank You!!

To celebrate this memorable day, I'm going out to partae tonite.

Sincerely,
EdMaestro

The "L" word

Love? It's kind of complicated, but I'll tell you this... the second you're willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's love right there. Someone is going to hurt you at some point in your life its up to you to decided who is worth it and who is not. Picture living with that one person for the rest of your life. Now, picture living without them. Which one's harder?

Thursday, April 20, 2006

I Did A Good Job At Work Today!

Sometimes I've been thinking, eversince I left my employed jobs and started a career of my own I've never been experiencing any motivational gestures or speech of my job well done. But hell, I'm going to give one to myself and give myself a pat on the back for saving my own ass. I call this S.E.M.E.N (Self Esteeming Motivational Experience N..........) Haven't thought of the "N" yet..... maybe later. Anyway here's a taste of my own S.E.M.E.N and I hope you readers like it too.


"HAVE I TOLD YOU RECENTLY HOW GREAT YOU ARE?! IS THERE ANY ONE WHO ACTUALLY KNOWS WHAT A SMASHING JOB YOU ARE DOING AT BEING YOU. OF ALL THE CRAP SHIT YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH, OF ALL THE THINGS YOU HAVE HAD TO BEAR, YOU STILL KEEP GOING DAY AFTER DAY WITH A SMILE ON YOUR FACE! IF ALL OUR YOUR DOINGS WERE PUBLICIZED YOU WOULD GET A NOBEL PRIZE. THE THINGS YOU HAVE DONE TO HELP AND UPLIFT OTHERS WOULD AMOUNT TO A MOUNTAIN AS HIGH AS ANY ON THIS PLANET. HOWEVER YOU DO IT, DON’T STOP! YOUR WARMTH, COMPASSION AND UNDERSTANDING.
THE COMPANY NEED YOU BADLY.
WHO'S YA DADDY!"

by Ed (S.E.M.E.N)

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

Happy News!

My best friend of many years is finally getting married (14 years to be percise). I saw it coming. That alone was a happy news. When she called to wish me birthday last nite, I have had some strange feelings about her birthday wish this year and it turned out to be a suprised. I guess I'm back to the old drawing board. I am going to just focus on my happiness and let the chips fall where they may.

Anyhow Kelly congrats! I saw that 'saman' coming! Just to let you know the police gave me a 50% off.

Awesome Birthday!

Tuesday 18 April: It was an awesome day the weather wasn't perfect but nicely cool and I had a nice birthday friend who was willing to spent her day with me. For lunch it seems so short but for dinner we sat and talked for hours and it felt like minutes! For lunch i had Herbal Soup Set, it was thought to cure my hangover from the night before. It worked, amazingly! The soup very the steam ar! Better than sex!

Well a little on this friend of mine. She is a wonderful woman and extremely sweet inside-out. Sometimes we meet different people along the way although it was a short while, I kinda like her style. We have our friendship that speaks volumes compared to getting into something you are not ready for. And I have always said and will continue saying it. Unconditional friendship has no chains to bind you. It always sets you free.

I had a wonderful time and I hope she did too. After dinner, got a song dedication specially made out to me. Haven't had any suprises in such a long time, I'm saving that moment in my brain. I think I should get out there and come out from my shell since it is a whole new experience for me. It is all about having no expectations and being honest. It is about having fun and letting the inner child out to enjoy life and meet new people and not be afraid of change. I'm facing the changes now and the challenges ahead. We all need to expand our horizons don't you think? We all need to stop and be awed by the sights, sounds and smells of life just like what i had on my birthday the 18th April 2006!

Again, To "C.Y" thanks a whole bunch, you really made my day!

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

Doing the Right Thing

I just realized one thing, for me to do the right thing, I have to be really steady. Sometimes that means giving up the things we wanted the most. Not just our dreams but also love ones. Do you agree?

A Sudden Thought

Mindless Thoughts
You know I just wish there is a place,
I can go where no one can find me,
Even that could not happen,
I just want to run and never stop,
Until I fall down in exhaustion,
If I can't do that I wanna fly,
Really high,
And not ever look back!
by Ed

Monday, April 17, 2006

Questions People Ask About Sex Part II

Yes, as promised. Again I did not post these questions
  1. Is there anything wrong with jacking off with a condom on?
  2. I have this thing for black guys and I am white. Is it wrong?
  3. Is masturbation against my pillow safe?
  4. I've already tried Viagra and I had the best shag of my life! Will my dick fuck up if I go on taking it now and then?
  5. My boyfriend's penis is curved like a banana. Is that normal?
  6. My girlfriend is 22. Is it normal for her to have hair around her nipple?
  7. Is it true that a woman can get pregnant by saving a guy’s cum and putting it in her pussy later?
  8. When I eat my wife's pussy out, she pushes me away when she climaxes. But when we are fucking, and she climaxes she doesn’t want me to stop!
  9. My girlfriend produces a lot of creamy pussy juice that accumulates at the base of my penis. I like to lick it up. Is this safe?
  10. I get really really wet when I'm turned on...like, to the point where my undies actually get pretty wet. Is that normal?
  11. I was giving my girlfriend anal and I pulled out with a dick full of poop. Is this normal?
  12. If my friend masturbates twice and comes both times and wipes it on his hand and then wipes it on his pants, then masturbates with that hand, and then I help him but he doesn’t come ‘cause he has to leave, and then I go inside and wash my hands twice and eat and lick my finger, can I get pregnant?
  13. My friend told me that her teacher said that a girl can get pregnant if a dude nuts on her stomach and some of the sperm goes into her belly button. Is that true?
  14. I like to eat my wife’s pussy for at least 30 minutes before we have sex. Is this normal?
  15. One of my friends told me that a girl can get pregnant from swallowing cum. Is this true
  16. My boyfriend pulls out when he's about to cum. Is it possible I can get pregnant by him cumming a little on the hole of my pussy?
  17. If I have anal sex with my girlfriend should I wear a condom in case of pregnancy or STDs?
  18. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about 5 months. We both really enjoy having sex when I am handcuffed, either to the bed or with my hands behind my back. Is that okay? We have a very loving relationship, and frequently have "normal" sex, but maybe 1 out of 4 times I am handcuffed (usually by my request). Am I strange?
  19. I have masturbated twice every day for the past 7 years. I am 26 now. Will I face any problem in becoming a father?
  20. Can you get AIDS from eating your own cum?
  21. Is it normal if I like to put a vibrator in my ass?
  22. If I masturbate 3 hours before my girlfriend comes over and then have sex with her once she does get here, is there enough sperm in me to still get her pregnant when I come during intercourse?
  23. Me and my girlfriend just started having sex about a month ago. When were doing it she doesn't moan. Does this mean it's not good for her?

Birthday Relay....Must keep up....need energy!

Dear Drinking Soulmates,

I want to thank you all for attempting to make me drunk, but that will not happen because i'm still here and i'm still standing. Really appreciate all that have turn up on Friday 14th night. Now here's a recap, was there early trying to get the place booked up. It turned out that i had quite a good VVIP treatment, well i got a couch, i got a table and a bench table, i could say half of the VIP sextion. Nobody turn up yet so I decided to get the drinks first and my dinner. Had this seafood pizza, don't really know how it tasted cause I was really really hungry. People started turning up at about 10:30pm and drinks started flowing. To cut it short:-

This is what i had:-
  1. Black Label - Few Glasses of it
  2. Flamming Lambogini - 2 Glasses + continuous flow of Black Label from the top. (need to find the culprit)
  3. Sakae - 3 seconds from bottle & uncountable amount of shots and i meant big shots.
  4. Beer - 3 bowls of beer (we had this in a Cynna Restaurant, I had it in rice bowls!)
  5. Tequila Shot - 1 straight up! (on the house)
  6. Bak Kut Teh - 1 bowl of rice and soup... yummy!
Amazingly, i was still standing and no assistance needed. I'm not trying to boast here but just to intimidate those who wanted to see me dead. Hey, some of you did throw up that night, I wonder how does that feel? All in all i really had fun!

Friday, April 14, 2006

Friends!

Gotta love friends. Even talking about nothing in particular improves my mood. Talking about junk that too improved my mood. Therefore, I salute to all who I've hanged out recently with.

I've gotten comment that i write too long... so i better shorten it so that I wouldn't bore anyone. :P

Online hobby!

I love to sign up for things. Freebies, contests, accounts at game websites... and online journals. But didn't expect to take blogging registration of mine and turn it into something serious and long-lasting? :P Maybe all the hype about journaling will prove to be true. I could get out my thoughts about life here, and what's left will be a creative flow into the stories I like to create. Here's hoping!

Thursday, April 13, 2006

Question People Ask About Sex Part 1

Well back by popular demand, enjoy. Anyway i got this article from the net would like to share it with you guys. Editting is needed here to soften it down. I hope i did a good job. People just ask the funniest questions, can't belief it's true!!


  1. A friend of mine said you can tell if a girl is a virgin by the way she walks. Is there actually a way to tell if a girl is a virgin or not by the way she walks?
  2. Is it safe to swallow my own cum?
  3. I have tried to suck my own dick but can only barely reach it. Is that good progress?
  4. Is it possible to break your penis, so that it’s difficult to have sexual intercourse or get erections?
  5. If I masturbate and cum on my hands, then wash my hands thoroughly with soap and water, and then four to five hours later finger my girlfriend, is it possible that sperm residue can get my girlfriend pregnant?
  6. Is it normal for a straight guy to shave his cock and balls?
  7. Is it true that frequent masturbation can cause your penis to shrink?
  8. My boyfriend wants me to say his name while having sex. Is this normal?
  9. If I give a guy head and I swallow, can I become pregnant?
  10. My girlfriend is always up for new things...so, what she wants to try is sex in a hot tub. Is that normal? And is that okay to do?
  11. Is it normal for a guy to finger his own ass?
  12. Is it normal to like to taste of your own cum?
  13. My boyfriend caught me masturbating. I said, “I'm sorry and I'll stop. But he just said, “No, no. That's alright. You can continue.” So I did. He sat there watching me. After about a minute, he suggested sex. Is it normal to get turned on by watching somebody masturbate?
  14. I feel a little embarrassed asking this, but is there any way possible to tit-fuck? My girlfriend has huge tits and wants to see if I find any pleasure by fucking them...is that even possible?
  15. My girlfriend and I had sex recently (I was wearing a condom...of course). But when we were done...she noticed that my condom was broken. Is there a chance she won't get pregnant?
  16. I have hair on the shaft of my penis almost half way up. It’s not a lot of hair but a little. Is this normal?
  17. I discovered I am bisexual. Is this bad to love cock & pussy?
  18. I went home to see my parents and my girlfriend not too long ago. Well, my girlfriend is pregnant. (I'm the father -- we both know that). But see, she still wants to have sex. Is that safe?
  19. Is it safe to jack off twice a day?
  20. Is there anything wrong about my girlfriend being afraid to be handcuffed to the bed?
  21. My boyfriend likes me to play with his ass during sex. Is this normal?
  22. Can you get a girl pregnant if you do her in the ass?
  23. Do tits get bigger after sex?
P/S: I hope this will bring back some of my readers who went reading other people's blog just because mine was boring for a month or so.

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

My Blog Statistic

Well, as you can see the respond to my blog is dwindling in the past 30 days. You people are very difficult to please. :P Last month I've changed my style of writting for the better and i also wanted to know if people are reading my materials simply because they wanted to know about my Life, Politics, lifestle, Religion, Culture, OR is it because people just like to read about Mr. Stiffy, Pubic Hair, Cock Repairer, Gayman etc etc?? You tell me!

Counting Down to the Inevitable!

It’s hard to believe, but it’s already the end of the first week of April 06 and here comes second week. Not only that, today just happens to be one week before my birthday.

Normally in the past I wouldn't look forward to my birthday because it means holding a party and having loads of pisst and drink myself silly I wanted to avoid that. BUT this year for the first time i'm looking forward to it. Not just to drink my self silly but to meet up with people I seldom get a chance to see and of cause my drinking buddies which you can "trust" "whole heartedly".

Every year I tell myself it's gonna be the last time I'm celebrating coz I dun wanna publicize my age anymore, and hopefully people would forget how old I am! I guess last year was the last time I celebrated in a big way. I did the usual stuff this year, will try to book a table at Loft. It was nice celebrating with close friends, well, familiar people that I'm comfortable with. I realize the importance of such friends. I guess that in itself is a present to me. Maybe as you get older, you realize that birthday parties are not about having a wild time, but spending it with the people that really matters to you as you do to them. That's what I would call a meaningful birthday.

Well, for the first time im actually publicizing my birthday and it's actually on April 18th but i'm certainly not against celebrating a few days early and on the day proper and a few days later. haha encore. Anyway this weekend sounds promising. Let's say... 14th or 15th?

Again I'm really looking forward to it cause right now I feel like fresh crap and depress. In addition to being tired now I'm maybe sick. So I feel and smell like shit at this moment. Infact, I don't want to get up every morning for work. Fuck, I feel horrible. There. I said it and I'm really really looking forward to my BeeDay. Cheers!

Monday, April 10, 2006

How to Communicate in Relationship?

I've always had this problem in communication if I'm in a relationship and i think many of you have this problems too. How many times in your past can you recall getting upset with your partner?. This then turned into an argument and you left with nothing resolved? Correct? I belief it is natural to want to express your thoughts and concerns when you feel wronged. However, it is also less natural for us to genuinely listen to the other person's point of view. This is the problem i think in humans.....

I find it that after relationships you learn through experience and practice to stop and listen when all you want is to get your point across. Everyone wants to be heard, genuinely heard, when expressing feelings. Sometimes when you approach someone from the "I" standpoint instead of the "you" standpoint, it changes the whole ways of communicaiton completely.

I've learn to take responsibility for my own actions and feelings to reduce the likelyhood of defence. I understand that relationships needs to be built on respect for one another!. I really find this very important. Again, it is ok to be upset with someone, the way you approach the situation can make a huge difference in the outcome.

I've got a few points here which i've heard and read about:-

1. Practice
Take ownership and responsibility for what you bring to the relationship. Instead of the "blame game", try approaching the situation with an open mind resulting in a solution as the end result.

2. Stop and listen
Next time you get upset with someone, be prepared to stop and really listen to what they have to say. Before jumping the gun and overreacting, take a deep breath and prepare how you want to approach the situation. Envision the end result in a positive manner with both parties being able to express everything without blame. This week practice the art of really listening. Take time to stop and really hear what the other person has to say.

3. Remember how it feels
Remember how it feels when you've been genuinely heard and understood? It is difficult to get upset when you feel understood, when there is little blame and more understanding of each other's point of view. Keep this in focus.

Friday, April 07, 2006

Memoirs of A Geisha

Well, here's a another movie review from me. It's another controversial movie which I'm about to write on.

This is an absolutely wonderful and sad movie! I enjoyed watching it very much it was like a dream you didn’t want to wake up from. A love story rich with exotic Japanese culture, beautiful cinematography and the scenery was breath taking! Even though there was a controversy over the movie because they used Chinese actresses and actors instead of Japanese it turned out very well, personally i don’t understand this controversy i mean how many times Hollywood used non Japanese to act as Japanese? If the acting was good and flawless then what’s the problem? I just love Zhang Ziyi she’s an outstanding talented actress, filming the movie in English was a bit hard but she did a good job. Same goes for Ken Watanabe playing the Chairman role was just perfect for him i knew he’d do well just as he did in The Last Samurai. This was the best serious movie that should truly deserves an Oscar.

What do you think, write me your comment.

My "Favoritest" Quotes So Far.

  1. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection
  2. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, We make our world.
  3. He who loves 50 people has 50 woes; he who loves no one has no woes.
  4. There has to be evil so that good can prove its purity above it.
  5. Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.
  6. Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.
  7. To conquer oneself is a greater victory than to conquer thousands in a battle.
  8. Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.
  9. Let a man avoid evil deeds as a man who loves life avoids poison.
Can anyone of you guess where some of this quotes come from?

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Those Dreaded Words!

Screeeeeaaaammmmmm!!!! Just to hear those dreaded 5 words always gets me so worked up for no reason! I have been getting those words from family and friends very often lately, more in the form of a warning rather than a simple polite question. The mere mention of those words just drives me up the wall. I know, I know, time is catching up with me because of my age & bla bla bla. Nevertheless, I have practically given up hope of finding the right woman for my life, hence the reason for not even thinking about getting married any time soon. Its not to say that I have given up thinking about woman entirely, no, no, don't get my wrong. (I know what some of you are thinking!) Its just like what a close friend told me before, "The time is not right for you yet, if the time is right, you will meet the woman of your dreams." I have always believed in that saying.

As for now, I am contented with what I have in my life, great family, great friends, good job, good car and most important of all, good health! Nevertheless, the society that we live in today, though how ever modern we can say we are, just cannot accept the fact that a guy above 29 years of age can still be around and living life without a soulmate. Whenever anybody asks me that question, my initial reactions were, "Why? Is there anything wrong with me now, am I getting uglier everyday?" After a while, I was just lost for words. I have got that question thrown into my face so many times, that it just gets harder and harder to answer everytime. In reality, its not a hard question to answer, nevertheless, I just don't know how to answer it in such a way that people will not ask me again. We talk about constructive confrontation, in this case, its constructive question answering. Answering someone's question, in a way not to piss the other person off. I really have to use this technique the next time someone asks me that question.

Nevertheless, I am not saying that people are entirely wrong for asking this question. Its purely out of care and love for me, as a friend or relative, that they ask me this question. They are worried about me because I might be lonely in life with no companion. That is somehow true at times. Of course, there was a time when marriage was my ultimatum, but it didn't happened. Something seems to keep me away from being successful with women, and I have solely accepted that as a fact of my life. You might say that I should not give up so easily, but whats the point of fighting over the path of fate. I really believe in fate, whole heartedly. Till then, I plan to enjoy my life, every minute of it, doing the things that I love, for doing the things that you love in life is the best medicine in making you a better person.

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Lampe Berger MLM

If you do not know what is Lampe Berger, it will cost you! If you don't know what MLM is, it will cost you too!

Lampe Berger is a household name for scented lamps, yes it sells aromatherapy to clean and purify air, and has supposedly been around since late 19th century. So if you have a lamp with this name on it and it's created more than 100 years ago, it won't be cheap. I've seen people buying a lamp that cost RM10k - 15k.

MLM stands for Multi Level Marketing. Trust me, this is the biggest scam. But I want to clarify one thing, lampe berger again is a name of the product, it did nothing wrong but the company who is selling it are using the MLM system is obiviously abusing the system and law in most countries. In a laymans term it's also called a Pyramid Scheme, which is illegal in most countries including Malaysia.

Even some aromatheraphy stuff may be value for money, and effective, a lot of MLM companies that try to sell in arommatheraphy do not offer competitive prices or market it to wrong market. Aromatheraphy products are known as "Oestantious" or luxury goods. Most such products are highly priced and without obvious beneficial value. No doubt i met people who impressed me with highly accredited proof, but I find it hard to believe and hard to afford.

Yes you will see people driving BMW & MERCs in MLM companies but if you observed carefully not all survive. The rich will be come richer and the poor will become poorer. In the end of the day only super saleman makes it.

Second point is that, aromatheraphy is an attractive product for disguised pyramid. Many do not know that a lot of the cost goes into the bottles, not the content. The stuff inside can be cheap, but some companies try to create branding by selling specially made crystal bottles, or uniquely designed container. Remember warnings of diguised pyramid pointing to products with no obvious beneficial value? Here is a good example, having little or no marketing at all of their products. With no obvious value, the cost can be low, much profits can be made. Not forgetting the target market now is young adults. Since the lamp is much for the rich, and most young adults can't afford to continually purchase. Its the maintaining part they probably have problems with. Thats why the need for continuous recruitment. This is why most people also point out why target them with lamp stuff, since there is problem in reconciling their income and the prices of the goods.

So, I found out that young adults are scamed into asking parents for asking for RM20k - 30k, just to book a rank in the MLM scheme and to see their returns of hundreds of thousands of dollars whereby we work like hell. There is no easy way out and people work their asses off just to earn a living. No easy picking in life.


Please read this Blog:-
Anti Lampe Berger

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

Style of Writting

It's been a fun 6mths of writting crap which is about something that most people may find intrusive, abusive, rated, not suitable for young adults, bla bla bla. Therefore it is time for me to change my style of writting, yes back to those previous entry like what I've started a year back ago about Religion, Culture, Politics, Relationship & Lifestyle. Interesting..... Well say goodbye to Mr. Stiffy.

Wasn't it fascinating? I mean I've made people laugh, they humoured me with their comments, you gain the sense of accomplishment, yes to make people happy and vice versa. I believe each of us has a unique style about us in writing. It's reflected in how we really are, whether we are day or night people, animal or human, devil or angel. It shows up in the type of thing we write and choose to write, whether I've talked about bannanas more often than aballon that's the type of writing i'm satisfied in. I do not take comments or perception towards me by other people seriously, which meant i do not get offended. I'm just having fun here and whether I can let an old habit go, my sense of humor, NO. Well, cheers to that!

My Hair!

Time has done nothing but make me miss my hair even more. There is no mourning for it. No one even realizes I miss it because when I first lost it, it didn't matter. People figure I have gotten over it. But, then again, I don't want pity, and I don't really want their sympathy, I just want my hair back. I just want to feel that prickly feeling. I don't want people to ask me whether I'm 18 or 29? I don't want to hurt over something that is so petty and pointless. I don't want to hurt over vanity. I just want my Pubic Hair back.

I miss my Pubic Hair so here I have written this poem for it:-
(yes I'm attempting to poem again, bare with me again)

Oh, my bushy shrub of once loved hair,
You've left me with pokey bare,
This is not a healthy fashion allure,
This can be enhance of my sexual pleasure.
(pronouce this in Italian "Plesseior")
by Ed

Saturday, April 01, 2006

OK I CONFESS!

I LIKE MEN THEREFORE I CONFESS THAT I'M GAY, I REALLY AM GAY. I WAS ADVISED THAT I SHOULD COME OUT FROM THE CLOSET AS WELL. I DO NOT KNOW HOW LONG I CAN LIE TO MYSELF AND TO OTHERS. SO NOW I SHOULD COME CLEAN TO THE WORLD AND JOIN THE REST IN GAY CLUBS. I KNOW SOME OF YOU ARE NOT SUPRISED BUT TO SOME THEY HAVE READ THIS AND ARE VORMITTING AS WE SPEAK. SORRY GUYS ALL THAT FRIENDSHIP BONDING IS FOR A CAUSE.

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A Perfectly Innocent Picture

Quote of the day!

"Love is a spirit of devoting yourself to someone important and close you to."
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