Screeeeeaaaammmmmm!!!! Just to hear those dreaded 5 words always gets me so worked up for no reason! I have been getting those words from family and friends very often lately, more in the form of a warning rather than a simple polite question. The mere mention of those words just drives me up the wall. I know, I know, time is catching up with me because of my age & bla bla bla. Nevertheless, I have practically given up hope of finding the right woman for my life, hence the reason for not even thinking about getting married any time soon. Its not to say that I have given up thinking about woman entirely, no, no, don't get my wrong. (I know what some of you are thinking!) Its just like what a close friend told me before, "The time is not right for you yet, if the time is right, you will meet the woman of your dreams." I have always believed in that saying.
As for now, I am contented with what I have in my life, great family, great friends, good job, good car and most important of all, good health! Nevertheless, the society that we live in today, though how ever modern we can say we are, just cannot accept the fact that a guy above 29 years of age can still be around and living life without a soulmate. Whenever anybody asks me that question, my initial reactions were, "Why? Is there anything wrong with me now, am I getting uglier everyday?" After a while, I was just lost for words. I have got that question thrown into my face so many times, that it just gets harder and harder to answer everytime. In reality, its not a hard question to answer, nevertheless, I just don't know how to answer it in such a way that people will not ask me again. We talk about constructive confrontation, in this case, its constructive question answering. Answering someone's question, in a way not to piss the other person off. I really have to use this technique the next time someone asks me that question.
Nevertheless, I am not saying that people are entirely wrong for asking this question. Its purely out of care and love for me, as a friend or relative, that they ask me this question. They are worried about me because I might be lonely in life with no companion. That is somehow true at times. Of course, there was a time when marriage was my ultimatum, but it didn't happened. Something seems to keep me away from being successful with women, and I have solely accepted that as a fact of my life. You might say that I should not give up so easily, but whats the point of fighting over the path of fate. I really believe in fate, whole heartedly. Till then, I plan to enjoy my life, every minute of it, doing the things that I love, for doing the things that you love in life is the best medicine in making you a better person.
As for now, I am contented with what I have in my life, great family, great friends, good job, good car and most important of all, good health! Nevertheless, the society that we live in today, though how ever modern we can say we are, just cannot accept the fact that a guy above 29 years of age can still be around and living life without a soulmate. Whenever anybody asks me that question, my initial reactions were, "Why? Is there anything wrong with me now, am I getting uglier everyday?" After a while, I was just lost for words. I have got that question thrown into my face so many times, that it just gets harder and harder to answer everytime. In reality, its not a hard question to answer, nevertheless, I just don't know how to answer it in such a way that people will not ask me again. We talk about constructive confrontation, in this case, its constructive question answering. Answering someone's question, in a way not to piss the other person off. I really have to use this technique the next time someone asks me that question.
Nevertheless, I am not saying that people are entirely wrong for asking this question. Its purely out of care and love for me, as a friend or relative, that they ask me this question. They are worried about me because I might be lonely in life with no companion. That is somehow true at times. Of course, there was a time when marriage was my ultimatum, but it didn't happened. Something seems to keep me away from being successful with women, and I have solely accepted that as a fact of my life. You might say that I should not give up so easily, but whats the point of fighting over the path of fate. I really believe in fate, whole heartedly. Till then, I plan to enjoy my life, every minute of it, doing the things that I love, for doing the things that you love in life is the best medicine in making you a better person.
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