Tuesday, February 22, 2005

Does marriage make people happy, or do happy people get married?

I honestly think people get married for a lot of reasons not just one! Lots of people get married because they're "in love" but what do "love" really mean? I can't understand the complexity of "love". What I think, it is not just a feeling but a strong bond shared between both that is created to sustain love.

Ok now, what most people fail to understand is that the institution of marriage is larger than the desires and wills of a man and women. Marriage is a 2-way transformation among two partners and their community like your Parents, Parents in law, relatives and friends. Marriage creates bonds between all 2 participants, and changes each of them. Even when the bond between the partners seems weak or shredded, those other bonds can provide sustenance and the seeds of healing. Love, the only kind of love worth getting married over, must be unconditional and unemotional. I know, I know, it sounds strange for me to say this. I like passion and it is a fine thing, and I think every marriage should have some (OK, maybe a lot), but it's not what makes a marriage bond. That doesn't mean that you should stay in an abusive situation, but it does mean that you should never bargain anything of yourself for love, and you should never trade love for anything of someone else’s.

What a dilemma!!!...that the thing we crave the most can't be bartered for anything - not even for itself. Unconditional love is not an abstract emotional concept. It is the single greatest risk, and the single greatest joy, that a person can experience. It doesn't say "I don't care what you are"; it is not blind (that's right, gentle reader, unconditional love IS NOT blind). Unconditional love says, "Whatever you have been, whatever you are, and whatever you will become, it will not change my love for you."

So In my conclusion" Marriage do make people happy!"

QUOTE OF THE DAY "Marriage is like a hot bath. Once you get used to it, it's not so hot."

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