Long Term Relationship Is It Really Complicated? (PART I)

Do you people ever feel that you have done your best in relationship to convince your partner that you’re the only one? In a way to make your partner to be pleased with what you have done for the relationship? BUT in the end of the day you’ll be disappointed because you didn’t get the results that you wanted from your partner. You don’t see any improvements. Though disappointed do you choose to be quiet and subdue everything inside you?

I belief some of you took this route which is to try very hard to work on being spontaneous and to do something that you normally wouldn't. I know relationships take a lot of work and it cannot be taken lightly and it's gotta be two-sided. If you are playing both roles in the relationship, would that lead you to being a loser in the end?

Some of us also try to have openness and honesty and we say is always the best way to go. If nothing is truly working, then perhaps it's easier to part ways. BUT before that, talk to one another that’s if your partner is willing to listen and not “believing” that the relationship is facing a problem. You will notice a relationship is leading to an end when they are unwilling to accept the fact and unwilling to solve the problem that the relationship is facing. A hint would be “whatever!” respond which is most common amongst our partners. THEN you should see whether you want out of your relationship cause there is nothing you can do.

Every relationship will always come with minor or major arguments but just gotta work 'em out and your relationship will grow to become a stronger bond with the person you cherish, right??? BUT some chose to often-ly “bow down”/compromise to your partner because you are afraid fights will erupt and lead to break ups. So you will just keep everything to yourself but I dare tell you this, it will make you a nobody in the eyes of your partner in a long run. Side effect of this would be your partner disrespecting you and hence losing your dignity as an equal. You know… those no give face thing, giving you the ‘treatment’. Roughly put, “grabbing you by the balls.”

In conclusion, don’t be a NOBODY, be somebody to your partner before it’s too late. Speak up and suggest new ideas of improvement. Get your balls back, set the record straight and save the relationship! It's important that it takes two to make it work out. Otherwise, it's not worth it to stay in that relationship. It's definitely important to be spontaneous in a relationship. Although you’ll be skinned alive but at least you have spilled out the problems you face in the relationship. And after that how you and your partner handle it is crucial. Hopefully “whatever” doesn’t pop up, again it will lead you to your end.