Love What is That?

Tonight I sit here pondering what love really is. It is late and I have work tomorrow however, I can not sleep. What is love actually? i asked myself. I've checked the online dictionaries. It defined Love simply as "an intense feeling of deep affection" and "Love is when you care for someone and are kind to them." This surprised me more than it perhaps should. The dictionary definition of love is just plain wrong! Love is not just an emotion of happiness, sadness, anger, disappointment, etc! In my opinion Love is not just a feeling. Its a 'decision', Love is a 'doing' word. It requires 'choices'. Hard choices, sometimes. It is about 'sacrifice' and 'trust'. It is about 'faithfulness'. It requires 'commitment'. I know it sometimes hurts and doesn't feel so good. As Daniel Bedingfield said in a song "Nothing hurts like love, nothing causes your heart so much pain" People who think love is a feeling will never succeed in marriage. They will never succeed in friendship. They will be likely to fail in most things they set their hands to.

When we claim that we love someone but are we correct?? This is what i think that it isn't love! Something for you to think about. If your palms sweaty and your heart racing it isn't love, it's 'like'. You can't keep your eyes or hands off of your partner? It isn't love, it's lust. Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of? Yes It isn't love as well, it's a lie!

But what do I know about the kind of love that defines anyway? People nowadays use the word love too easily, including myself. I suppose that is why we have other words like true love. What is love then if it is not true love? Is there such a thing as a half-love or one quarter-love?? I don't think so. One of the reasons why we separate the two terms is to protect our own fragile emotional selves. For example, if the relationship with the love of your life has gone sour people will say that it was love but not true love.

On the other hand there is the dark side of love. This side is the one that everyone unfortunately have had more experience with.